How Time Away Helped Me Be More Present

Hello beautiful! Gosh it's been super quiet around here lately hasn't it? Well, I do have good reason... I went off gallivanting around Barbados during November 🌞 And let me tell you, it was GORGEOUS!

In the months leading up to my holiday I was increasingly being worn down and down every day and as I realised that this whole year had tested and challenged pretty much every aspect of me and my life, I knew I was on the cusp of change (and that change was going to awesome and amazing - once I had refreshed!), so I can't explain how perfectly timed this break was, and how for me, it was like this significant period between what was going to be 'Then' & 'Now' ❤


So, hello world, I'm back! And I'm feeling rejuvenated, inspired and ready to make unbelievable shit happen.

But the most important thing I feel that I have taken away from Barbados is, how to be more present.

I'll be the first to admit that I'm the type of person who can easily become 'stuck' in the past, especially when the past hurts. I can often feel tormented by it, whilst simultaneously feel comfortable because feeling that way is something I have been used to for years. 

In contrast, I'm also always eager for the future and can become incredibly impatient and frustrated waiting.

What I struggle with though, is the Present - and I know I'm not alone here.

But guess what? It's the best place to be.

Now of course, this would obviously seem easier experiencing this whilst in Barbados, after all, the country is beautiful, I was doing new things and I wanted to make the most out of every second. But why shouldn't that apply to every day life? And where you are right now?

By focusing on the present I realised that, that was all that mattered. Everything else that had happened before no longer needed to have a hold on me, because I'm still here, I'm still standing and therefore, it has no power.

I found that time slowed down a little, I realised how much I loved people, I appreciated how amazing life can be, I was proud of all the little things I had tried, even though they may have scared me, and most importantly, living in the moment left me open to be happy.

I've been remaining to focus on this little epiphany since I've been back. It sounds so simple and it's obviously not revolutionary, but for so many of us, it's hard to live life by. And of course, there have been moments where my mind has slipped back into the past, you cannot prevent that, in fact it's crucial to deal with past hurt to be able to heal and move on, but you can control how long you spend within that mindset. If you feel you're beginning to become 'stuck', just take a second to pause, breathe and slowly begin to refocus on what is in front of you this very second. What can you appreciate?

Love Stacie x